When we encounter various trials and tribulations, we have two choices we can make. We can either doubt the Lords Love and provision, which leads to personal confusion and spiritual devastation; or, we can unconditionally trust and obey Him to an even greater degree.

Our obedience shows the Lord that we trust Him. In other words, by doing in action what He has asked, even though we might not feel like it, we show our absolute reliance upon Him.

I remember as a young Christian, hearing about all the Old Testament saints and how it was only after they took a step of obedience, that the Lord would manifest Himself to them. And, because they unconditionally obeyed Him, they were able to go on and do incredible things for Him.

Did they always ”feel like” doing what He asked of them? I certainly don’t think so. I don’t think Abraham ”felt like” sacrificing his only son. (Genesis 22) I don’t think Moses ”felt like” leaving his family and fleeing into the wilderness. And, I don’t think Joseph ”wanted to” serve in Potiphar’s house or be in prison for years. No, all of these men chose to do these things purely out of obedience! And, because they did, God manifested Himself to them. Therefore, obedience always comes before sight. Only after we take that step of obedience will the Lord reveal Himself to us.

Consequently, the response that God desires when a trial or tragedy hits is for us to unconditionally trust Him enough to obey Him. No matter what we see happening or how we feel, we must unreservedly trust His Love and take that obedient step, knowing that somehow and someway He will use our situation for our good and His glory.

To obey God simply means to set aside and relinquish what we think, what we want and what pleases us; and, by faith choose to do whatever He has asked. I’ve learned the hard way that obedience is the only answer. I’ve learned to obey God even when it’s the last thing in the world that I want to do. I have tried all the other ways and obedience truly is the only way that works.

I’ve learned that I must unequivocally obey, because only then will God be free to work out the circumstances in my life according to His will. Until I choose to obey, those circumstances are still my responsibility. But once I choose to relinquish myself over to Him, those circumstances then become His responsibility.

An Example: Raw Eggs

Here’s a silly, but graphic, personal example:
Many years ago, Chuck and I had an evening planned at the Music Center in Los Angeles with some very important business friends who were non-believers. Because we lived in Orange County and it was at least an hours drive to Los Angeles, we had to pick up these friends by five o’clock in order to make dinner on time.
As it happened, that day was my carpool day for Michelle. (She was probably around 6 at the time.) I figured if I got all the girls home by 3:30 p.m., I’d still have plenty of time to get dressed and pick up our friends by five.

That afternoon, however, one of the little girls in the carpool smashed her finger in the car door as she was getting in. We had to rush her back into school, soak her finger, call her mother and do some TLC (tender loving care). I lost half an hour there.

When Michelle and I finally got home, I noticed a horrible smell coming from the back of the car. It turned out to be one of the little girls carton of spoiled milk that had spilled. Since this was the car I was using that evening, I needed to do an extra special job of cleaning up the mess so it wouldn’t stink. I lost another 15 minutes there. (I think the Lysol smell after cleaning it was probably worse than that of the spoiled milk!)

When I finished with the car, I rushed into the house to make a soufflé. I was hosting a luncheon the next day for twelve women, and I needed to make some last-minute preparations. (The soufflé needed to be made a day in advance in order to sit in the refrigerator overnight.)

I had one special pan that I used to make a soufflé; none of my other pans worked. For some reason, that day I couldn’t find it. After spending ten anxious minutes opening and shutting all the cupboards in my kitchen, trying to find my pan, I remembered we had lent our house to some people over Christmas. I thought perhaps by mistake they had taken it home.

So I called, and after several minutes of chit chat, the wife verified that, yes, she had my pan. She said she could return it the next day. ”No, thank you,” I said, ”That’s too late; I need it now. Thank you anyway.”
By now it was 4:15 p.m.! I wasn’t dressed, the soufflé wasn’t made, the kids weren’t fed, and I was beginning to get a little panicked. I took out another pan, threw in all the ingredients and tried to stir. But the bowl was too small and I couldnt mix it properly. In desperation, I threw the whole mixture (a quart of milk, a dozen eggs, mustard, Worcester-shire sauce, etc.) into my new Cuisinart, not realizing that liquids can’t go above the two-inch tube in the center or they will overflow. And, that’s exactly what happened!

Twelve raw eggs and one quart of milk began to ooze out all over the counter, down the sides of the cabinets, into the drawers, down my legs, into my shoes, and onto the floor. It was now 4:30 p.m. By this time I was totally out of control! I began to scream, kick, and yell. (Have you ever been there? Can you identify?)
God gently tapped me on the shoulder and asked, ”Nancy, will you choose right now to obey Me? Do you love Me that much?” God wanted me to choose, at that very moment, to relinquish my anger, my frustration, and my anxiety to Him, and not allow those wild emotions to direct my actions anymore.

Do you know how hard it is, in the middle of a ”fit,” to stop, turn around, and choose to act in a calm manner? It’s impossible; its totally supernatural!

But, as I have said, I have learned over all these years that I have been a Christian, that no other way works. I literally have tried every other way possible and none works. So out loud, almost crying, right there in the middle of the egg yolks, I made that commitment to God that I would obey Him.

Now I certainly didn’t feel like it; it was totally a faith choice, a non-feeling choice. I consciously relinquished my anger, my frustrations, and all of my distraught feelings. I confessed that they were obviously not of faith and were therefore sin. And I asked Him to purge them from me.

In other words, I barred myself from following my unruly feelings by determining not to give in to them; instead, giving them to God and doing what He was asking me to do. Then I asked God to help me get ready on time, to pick up our friends by five, and be a genuine representation of Him that evening.

God is so faithful. Grandma arrived to take care of the kids, which left me free to run upstairs and find a perfect outfit to wear. I jumped in the shower and did what I could with my disheveled hair. I was only 15 minutes late picking those people up that night, and yet we were right on time for the dinner and the show in Los Angeles!
The best part of the whole evening was experiencing Gods Love, not only for me personally, but flowing through me that night to our friends. Can you imagine what kind of a Godly representative I would have been had I not made that choice in the kitchen to obey God?

I think I fed the ladies sandwiches the next day.

Three Steps of Obedience

Now, since the word ”obedience” is such a very broad term, let’s narrow it down just a bit. There are three essential parts to obeying God. They are:

  1. Out of obedience, we must learn to ”love” (agapao) Him;
  2. Out of obedience, we must learn how to moment-by-moment renew our minds; and
  3. Out of obedience, we must learn how to have unshakable faith in all circumstances.

Again, at first glance, you might think, ”Oh, those are easy! I’m already doing them! What’s so new?” I assure you, however, that these principles are not what you might first imagine and they are far from being easy!
For example, most of us haven’t the faintest idea of what the Bible really means when it says we are ”to love God.” Most of us think that simply means ”affection” love. But nothing could be further from the truth. And renewing our minds is far more than what one might first expect. Did you know the battle for our lives is really waged in our minds and if we don’t learn how to renew them daily, the enemy will end up in control? And finally, naked faith is not only trusting what God does through us, its also trusting what He does towards us.

The question is: How do we do this? How do we never give up, so that He will be with us, help us and uphold us?


The Biblical answer is by learning longsuffering. And, believe it or not, longsuffering is a fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22 lists it as number four on a list of 9! Now, all of us yearn for the fruit of Love, joy, peace, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance, but who on earth wants to learn “longsuffering” or patient enduring? No, thank you! And yet, God says longsuffering is a part of His character, a part of His image and a part of His nature. Therefore it’s something He wants us all to learn.

Paul tells us in 1 Timothy 1:16 that he, himself, is a perfect pattern or model of Christ’s longsuffering. He says that since Christ patiently endured his (Paul’s) sinful ways, we must remember this example and patiently endure others’ sinful ways.

Longsuffering simply means “suffering that seems to last forever.” But please hear this: Longsuffering is always associated with hope and mercy. Therefore, it is the opposite of despair, discouragement and depression. 1 Thessalonians 1:3 confirms this: “…remembering without ceasing your work of faith, labor of love and patience of hope [longsuffering] in our Lord Jesus Christ…”

Another definition of longsuffering that I really like is: believing all things, hoping all things and enduring all things. Longsuffering here describes someone who continually puts all unfulfilled hopes, dreams and visions at the foot of the Cross and never lets go, never gives in and never gives up!

Longsuffering is simply Love that endures all circumstances. Are you willing to learn this kind of Love?

Though He were a Son, yet learned He obedience by the things which He suffered.
(Hebrews 5:8)

by Nancy Missler
©2013 The King’s High Way Ministries, all rights reserved


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9 Responses

  1. Hana says:

    Glory to God for the just concluded Easter coernfence held at camp of Glory Nteje. God blessed us and equipped us with his word. we thank God for all the area committee members and the fegge zone local organizing committee for their sacrificial labor. May our good Lord bless and reward you all a-men.

  2. Perses Anne Rathert says:

    When I was 34 I had an accident that changed my life. I was not walking with The Lord at the time, having had a terrible fight with Him some years earlier. Actually, at the time I attended Calvary Church in Cost Mesa where Chuck taught Monday nights! Small world! Needless to say, it was my lack of understanding scripture that prompted my rebellion. After 6 back surgeries and 6 separate specialists who determined my case was hopeless while in awful pain, I did cry out, “Who has the right to say I must live?!!” It is impossible to relate the pain I endured or the hopelessness of my situation. Then the idea came quietly to my mind. “The Lord Jesus Christ has that right.” I was overwhelmed with so much emotion. Shame for having been angry and arrogant towards The Lord, pain for having missed Him; joy knowing He’d forgiven me at Calvary. I have just entered my 26th year of chronic intractable and acute pain. I have endured 5 more back surgeries, a wrist replacement, 2 knee surgeries and an ankle surgery. I and am looking at two more back surgeries and a shoulder replacement. And I couldn’t be more grateful to our Lord and Savior. “Just as I Am” as the hymn says. It is not my obedience I rely on, but His perfect obedience to His Father. “My meat is to do the will of Him that sent me and to finish His work.” This is the heart I aspire to. I don’t expect a miraculous healing of my body, I don’t beleive right division of Scripture teaches this, although I would never deny the power of God to do anything He has a mind to. We are told we will face tribulations. Romans 5 tells us that tribulation produces patience, and patience experience, and experience hope, and hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us! Wow! Who knew we could be so rich? But, I do cling to the fact that I am a sinner saved by the grace of God and Romans 8:18 “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared to the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Again, I say Wow! I am acutely aware of how much I suffer, so all I can conclude is that that is going to be some glory! I am very isolated, but I doubt my world could be richer if I had the use of my body. He is our glorious present and future – not because of anything we have done, but because our precious Lord and Savior was faithful! Dead in trespasses and sins, at a young age I believed The Lord Jesus Christ was who He claimed to be, and positionaly I went from hell to being seated in the heavenlies! I also believe that His Word is what it claims to be it is perfect without error. What priceless comfort! We stay strong by remembering His gift and the whatsoevers of Phil. 4:8, by remembering we deserve hell, but God who is rich in mercy gave us His Son who paid the penalty so that we may have eternal life. Amazing Grace indeed! I do pray if anyone reads these posts and doesn’t know The Lord Jesus Christ, that they will write to the host and receive the most precious gift you’ll ever receive. We believers are so blessed! Blessed with all spiritual blessings, so I will close with the prayer that you all will constantly be aware of that wondrous fact. Thank you. Special thanks to Nan – I do own all of your books. You are a courageous and generous woman.

  3. Kym says:

    Yes, thank you for reminding me that long suffering is linked to hope not despair. It is patiently enduring with our eyes fixed on Jesus lit up with the sure hope we have in Him.

  4. Michaelle O. Johnson says:

    You are such an inspiration to the Body of Christ and all who are suffering and in need of healing, indicating that “God Is able to make ALL Grace abound toward you, giving you All suffiency in All things and abounding in Every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8)
    Your gift of Love and compassion, despite your own suffering has been a blessing to many and I thank God for having already healed you according to His time and purpose in the Name of Yeshua HaMashiach (JESUS Christ)! Amen

  5. Brends whisenhunt says:

    Nancy what a blessing you are! thank you for sharing God’s love,His word!

  6. Ann Sumners says:

    Reading this page on Learning obedience, I realize I have missed many opportunities to do this. Thank you for offering a ‘new’ way for me to respond to trials/tribulations in my life. Your writings are so beneficial for me. I thank Jesus My Lord that I have access to your thoughts and wisdom. God bless and keep you. Ann

  7. HelenAnn Maiolo says:

    May I please join your mailing list.

  8. I have read the page “Learning obedience through long suffering” and I found it to be a great help in my own life. I thank God very much for this web site. Its like having a mentor I can go to for help and comfort. Keep up the good work.

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